Friday: The Challenge of Forgiveness

Big Idea: Whatever your reason is for not being in a small group, it's bad.

Scripture: Ephesians 4:31-32 (ESV) 31 Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. 32 Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.

Man….this is so much easier said than done.  Letting go of bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, slander, and malice can be one of the most difficult things to do in all of the world, especially when we feel that we have been hurt.  But in our Christian journey, forgiveness is a non-negotiable attribute. It’s not just “a good idea”. It’s not just “ideal”.  It’s not optional.   Ephesians teaches us to let go of negative emotions and instead embrace kindness, compassion, and forgiveness. This command relates not just to our personal lives but also to our life in community, where misunderstandings and hurt feelings sometimes arise.

I bet that at some point in your life, you’ve dealt with “church hurt”.  Church hurt could be defined as being hurt or feeling hurt or wounded either by a representative of the church, the institution of the church, or a friend from that particular church.  The more I’ve been in church, the more personal stories of church hurt I have.  But I’m always reminded that Jesus died for me.  He had grace for me.  So who am I to withhold grace from others? 

Forgiveness is part of the work we do within groups. While community provides incredible support and fellowship, it isn’t without its challenges. Miscommunications or differing expectations can lead to conflict. Holding onto hurt can destroy relationships, but practicing forgiveness repairs and strengthens them, nurturing a community rooted in Christ’s love.

Action Step: Reflect on any grievances you may hold against someone in your faith community, and ask God to help you forgive them today.

Song of the Day: “Forgiveness” by Matthew West. Matthew West - Forgiveness (Lyric Video)